New Year...New Focus

Happppy Neewwww Yeaaaaarrr :-D

So we've finally made it to the new year. 2012 was rough for me and countless others. I witnessed so much pain but a lot of growth as well. Yet, here we are ready to start anew. We who have lived to see this day have the opportunity to do it all over again. Hopefully we'll get it right this time :-)

My landscape hasn't changed much as far as love is concerned. I am still single. But there is a difference in how I view being single. In this life I've been gifted with a certain something that always draws men in. Some good, some not so good. Suitors are never lacking. But I digress. The realization I have come to is that none of us can have a healthy, long lasting or strong relationship without self development. So often we view self development as having a career and improving our quality of life. This is not the case. Self development is character development. To get where I desire in love I must continue to cultivate compassion, empathy, and selflessness within. I must rid myself of shallow preconceived notions which do nothing but limit me. And I have to stop being stuck in what I think love should look/feel like and embrace its fluidity.

Men will continue to come and perhaps I will indulge one or two, but that will take a back seat to the highly important task of developing my character.

As for me my loves, I have grown tired of writing solely about dating and relationships. There is so much more to me than that. I am a dynamic individual with a range of interests and opinions that I want to showcase. Therefore, I have created a new platform called the dream girl blog in which I will write about any topic that tickles my fancy. NSPW has been a cathartic and fulfilling journey. It has provided me with a way to share my innermost longing for a healthy union. I sincerely thank anyone reading for supporting me through this journey. I appreciate you. I will continue to write about love on the dream girl blog but will also share my views on other facets of life. So this is my farewell post. With this new year comes a new focus and a new platform, please join me :-)

*Waves goodbye with a big grin on my face* Hope to see you on the new blog :-D

The Dream Girl Blog

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Value YOU

Happy Holidays Everyone!

 This weeks video blog discusses the importance of not allowing people or things to determine your value.

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Love & Tragedy in Newton, Connecticut

Associated Press

The perpetual and harrowing acts of senseless violence in this country sadden me deeply. To turn on the television and see that children have been murdered by a crazed gunman is heart-wrenching. How could anyone hurt, let alone murder the purest form of humanity, our children? I can not comprehend it. All I know is that it hurts me to my core that this is our (American) reality.

I find myself thinking of love in very limiting ways. Focusing solely on the romantic love shared by a man and a woman. But atrocities such as the one in Newton, Connecticut encourage me to have an all encompassing view of love. To focus on the love I share with friends, family, and even pets. Love can be taken from you in a flash, why not appreciate it and treasure it. If you are single like me begin to revel in the love that surrounds you right this moment instead of longing for the love you wish to have. It's coming. In the meantime love and be loved.

God Cover Us All...

How He Makes Me Feel...

Men are often clueless as to how horrible their actions can make us feel. So this week I'll share portions of a note I wrote to a man I once dated. Ladies, perhaps you can relate...


I know I’m not your focus… She is, he is, your money is, your family is, your friends are, you are. I know that and am reminded of it again and again. I’ve never wanted to be anyone’s sole focus. Just to know that I rank among the other importance's in his life would suffice. 

I am your nothing… or at least that’s what I’ve felt like from time to time. The girl that you’re feeling sometimes, the one you can do without…besides its not like she’s the love of your life, you’ve been there and done that. So she’s cool but she’s your nothing. You see her when you can and sometimes not even then. You refuse to feel too much for her because feelings are not your thing. You give her slithers of yourself and expect that to be enough. Her constant attempts to flee from you and the vagueness of the relationship are of no consequence because she is in no way needed by you. Needing someone is a weakness right? Most of the time she doesn’t even feel wanted, which is what she longs for most. What she adds to your life is not worth holding on to… is not worth erasing the vagueness for…she is your nothing. She holds no real value in your eyes, for if she did it would show in your dealings with her. She gets very little of your time, attention, or sacrifice...after all she is simply your nothing. Whether she exists in your experience or not matters very little because you are familiar with moving on after a loss…she will be replaced, by the next, the next, and the next. She is your nothing who will become nothing more than a fond memory, just a lil lady passing through.

And though I know I’m your nothing I deserve to be a man’s something, not his only something, but an important one nonetheless.
  

Love is Closer Than You Can Imagine...

 

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Beautiful Blogger Award :-D

Guess What? I've been nominated for the Beautiful Blog and Very Inspiring Blogger Awards by fellow blogger Onleilove who encourages physical, spiritual and emotional wholenesss. Please check out this phenomenal woman's blog.


7 Things About Dream aka Me:

1. I am a sensitive. Someone who feels deeply, passionately, and excessively at times. It'my gift and my curse.
2. I LOVE to dance, particularly to reggae music...it's the thing that makes my spirit smile.
3. Loving unconditionally and without attachment is my life's goal.
4. Serving others makes me happy :-)
5. Spending time with my loved ones provides a joy unparalleled. 
6. I spend a lot of time reading and researching...Yes, I'm an undercover nerd.
7. I want my life's work to include travel, writing, and encouraging others.


I am nominating the following blogs for the Beautiful Blog and Very Inspiring Blogger Awards:

1. Wholeness 4 Love
2. Spirituality is Reality
3. Kellz Korner
4. Single Girl in a Couple's World!

Thanks For Reading!!!

Love In All Its Forms...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It's been 14 days since Sandy hit. She left many areas devastated and people looking for some semblance of normalcy. My family and I haven't had heat, hot water or electricity for 14 days. My usual complaints of slow internet access and dropped calls have been replaced by complaints of incessant cold and the inability to take showers. My first world issues have become null compared to my newfound third world issues. In all this I have experienced a compassion incomparable to any I've witnessed before. Complete strangers have descended upon my neighborhood and brought all the resources they could muster with them. Blankets, food, candles, warming stations, information, and comfort are being provided. I often write of finding love...well I've found it in Brooklyn among throngs of selfless volunteers. Thank You...

Letter To My (Future) Husband... I'm Ready

Hey Baby Cakes,

Words can't even describe how ready I am for you, for your essence, for your spirit, for your presence.

To prepare for you I'm working on my communication skills. Ensuring that in moments of anger I won't attack you.

To prepare for you I am working on subduing my fear of intimacy. Accepting that conflict will inevitably occur in love & there's absolutely no escaping it.

To prepare for you I keep a written account of all the ways I want to indulge in you sexually. Oh, how I look forward to that...

To prepare for you I pray & meditate in order to center myself. So that you may enjoy an emotionally settled woman and nothing less.


God, am I ready for you...




Praying that my love reaches you wherever you are,

DayDream
 




P.S. I can't wait to kiss your face ;-)

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